If you prefer to watch a video, here is an earlier and more rambling version of the blog. It's a talk given during one of the online sangha meetings.
The word calm has a beautiful vibration if you take a moment to let it resonate in you. We all want to feel calm because it feels good, and it’s relaxing. So how do we reach a calm state?
Most people, when asked, will tell you what they DO to feel calm: go for a walk, have a nice bath or massage, talk to a friend or loved one about what’s troubling them, use essential oils or herbs, or even medication or drugs.
But when we do things to be calm, we’re not leaving the realm of what changes, what goes up and down. What goes down – gets calm – invariably will go up again. We’re forever oscillating between tension and relaxation, the nervous system being activated or not, speed or slowness of thoughts, intensity or quietness of emotions. All of these inner states and movements change over time.
Most of us are busy trying to influence or control them so we feel ok. It’s a losing battle, because invariably calmness will turn into agitation the moment something happens that we don’t like, are afraid of, or angry or sad about. So most people live their lives in varying states of agitation and stress, forever trying to do things to be less agitated, and ultimately forever failing.
True calm cannot be found in the world of change.