Is there anything I want to get rid of, that I feel doesn’t belong, is not ok, or should stop? And if there is such a thing, is there any way that I can include it? For example, by saying to myself: “Ok, this is here right now. I don’t have to like it, I don’t have to agree with it, I don’t have to find it ok. But: can I let it be what it is and how it is?”
These questions invite you into the open heart when it’s closed off in relation to something, whether it is an experience, a thought, or an inner image or memory. “Can I include this? Can I let this be part of my inner experience?”
And it’s also ok to disagree, to say no I don’t think this should be here. But at the same time, when it is here, it is, and then it needs to be included. AND: you can do everything within your means to make it stop. That’s ok. It doesn’t mean everything is always good.
Asking this question leads us to dealing with reality at two different levels. At the level of loving awareness, everything is included. At the human level, you don't have to become an unfeeling zombie or put your head in the sand.