Life challenges: Unmani
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Life challenge: Loss and grief
Unmani lost her beloved husband and friend Robert very suddenly in early January 2018. She has been sharing her experience on facebook very movingly since then. From one of her posts:
Occasionally, someone suggests that grief is all just a 'story' or 'in the mind', or that the whole thing is not 'real' anyway. ... Sometimes I have been told that I should stop 'identifying' with with it, and then I will know peace. But what they fail to see is that when you know your true identity to be Peace itself, then there is nothing to lose by diving deep into the apparently 'unreal story' and experiencing this human experience fully without holding back. I can even play at 'identifying', when I know my true identity. And sometimes temporarily playing one of these 'unreal identities' seems to even support the very physical process of grieving. In this play of humanness, it is very natural to be attached to the man that you love. In this play of humanness it is natural to feel the ripping apart and heartbreak when he dies suddenly. In this play of humanness there are times that are certainly not peaceful. But in this play of humanness, I am never looking for, or expecting to find, true Peace, because that is what I am already.
Unmani is originally from the UK, but has lived a nomadic life in many countries around the world from the age of 18. Since she was a child, Unmani never identified with the role she seemed to be playing as a person living a life. However, she felt very lost and alone in a world that everyone else seemed to take so seriously. Unmani's main inspiration has come from Osho and Dolano. After years of searching to find a way out of pain, she met the German Zen master, Dolano in India. With her, Unmani recognized that what she had been searching for had always been right here. She woke up to the dream, time stopped and the search ended. Unmani began holding meetings and retreats around the world 3 years later She is the author of two books ‘I am Life itself’ and ‘Die to Love’ and is now writing a third book. www.dietolove.com.